I composed this as a text to someone I used to know who meant a lot to
me, though she didn’t know it. I haven’t spoken to her in a years,
so I wasn’t sure the phone number is still hers. I’ve omitted her name
for the purposes of this post, but I (unfortunately) can never change
the impact she had on me, or how I will always feel about her. I share
this because it turned out too long for a text, because I’m still a
coward, and (most importantly) because you may be her to someone else,
and you deserve to know.
“Hi, ____. There’s something I want to tell you. I’ve been carrying it
with me for a long time.
You were an incredible woman, and someone I can respect until the end.
I didn’t know you half as well or even half as long as I would have chosen
to. But the times I spent with you have haunted me for what I could
have said… what I refrained from saying. And now it’s been years, and
you’re probably happy with what you have… but I don’t think I can
ever forget you. How you excited me in conversation when everything,
everyone, else was blank and uninteresting. How you rejected
evaluations of your beauty because you knew they spoke of your physical
form while you didn’t know that your heart, your kindness, was the
beauty that made me care for you so much. You never knew how deeply you
touched my heart when all of the people who “loved” me drove me out,
and you were there at the pub to sincerely ask me to stay a moment
longer. I’ll never forget you, and I’ll probably always regret being
the coward I was when you knew me, because I never said this to you in
person.
If this is no longer ____, remember always that sometimes people don’t
tell you how much you mean to them until it’s way past too late. Since
she was more than special to me, I’m certain you are more than special
to someone else. Even if they haven’t the courage to tell you, as I
didn’t have the courage to tell her. Be well, be safe, be at peace.
Someone loves you, and hasn’t the courage to say it.”
And if, by some strange stroke of luck, she’s the one reading this:
Thank you for making me feel appreciated when no one else did… and
I’m sorry I didn’t stay with you that night. It seemed a dishonorable
act while I was still officially seeing her, even though it was over.
It helped me be able to look at myself in a mirror, but it’s always
difficult to look at a picture of you and know the cost of personal
honor. I suppose honor and honesty require certain sacrifices, but I
wish we could have had a chance.
Missing you every day for eight years now,
Your Friend,
Ed